Morning all, it’s nice to catch up once again and today I wanted to take the time and sit down and write before heading into the rest of Wednesday! I hope things are good in your world and like myself, you’ve been training hard and enjoying it too. Between you and me, it’s doing me the world of good in fact these days on average I train five or six times a week which is of course always a good thing.
If Muay Thai is the yang that helps me manage and work with fight or flight created by PTSD when it emerges then writing is absolutely the Yin that helps me navigate the crash that comes after. It’s also something that gives a nice balance to a high-intensity workout and if things feel bleak then writing absolutely helps put them right. Well, Muay Thai does the same but I hope you know what I mean.
I’ve read several articles on the subject of martial arts helping us navigate trauma and improve mental health and if it seems like something I keep going back to it’s because it’s my lived experience, and although it’s not a magic bullet training is doing me the world of good. Stepping into my gym last night I felt anxious and alert but told everyone I was fine. What was refreshing for me last week, however, was to be told by one of the longer-term students and fighters that it’s to say I’m not okay sometimes and that the gym is somewhere where I should feel safe.
What was really important to me is that he went on to say combat sports and martial arts gyms can seem very macho but here (as in my camp) I should not be afraid to show vulnerability. Of course, I was speaking to someone who has been through what I’m navigating at present and it’s good to know that my gym is full of many “humans of fighting.” Then again it’s not the only gym I’ve trained at with good people.
Day by day I’m remembering how to not carry myself but how to take the positive energy Muay Thai gives me and apply it to the rest of my life. There are points in our life where we run into hardship and difficulty and it’s at these points we learn the most about ourselves as people. I was told recently that although what has happened to me is terrible and those responsible should be accountable I’m just as accountable for how I respond or more appropriately react to whatever I encounter that triggers me in my day-to-day life.
Just recently my fighter stepped in when it seemed a situation could escalate and I could feel a hyper-vigilant PTSD episode beginning. It seemed that someone older and wiser stepped forward and said very gently “Look again. There is no threat.” seeing as I was in a supermarket it was a moment of clarity and I thanked myself for not only being there for me but for defusing something that would have come from nothing. But that’s me. Gentle as a lamb, fierce as a lion.
Things happen to us in our lives that create incredible amounts of trauma. I’m someone who historically has suppressed how I feel inside because I don’t want it to hurt me or those I care about the most. These days I sit down with myself regularly, I have a psychotherapist who is teaching me how to travel light. I’m eternally grateful for her help but I’m just as grateful for the good people I have in my life beyond this in fact I don’t think I’ll ever stop saying thanks.
I wanted to share a superb article I read yesterday focusing on some of the issues I’ve faced in my life called “Healing, resistance, and justice in the ends” It really put things into perspective for me and reminded me how important it is that all of us are there for each other. Some days, like today I feel vulnerable. A guy like me some would say feeling vulnerable? he can’t be serious! but you see I am, and that part of me I take to Muay Thai training and say “Let me show you something, young man No one will ever hurt you again.” and do you know what? I think that’s the triple truth because here I am thriving in spite of it all.
If writing is one thing, it’s therapeutic. Sparring is this evening and in the meantime, I’ve got the rest of Wednesday to take the cleaners. I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this week’s blog and I hope it’s helped. I’ll do my best to write a lot more frequently. Have a great week train hard and just like the last time.. I’ll see you on that road.